Skip to content
Next Home Direct

Educating a Baby to Grow into an 'English Gentleman' – Does It Justify the Money?

Child education concept
The company behind the advert claims that what looks like "luxury or peculiarity" is actually "purposeful investment in initial education".

"Parents based in north London seeks an extraordinary and experienced educator to assist their youngest child on his first steps to turning into an British gentleman."

Upon seeing this post, you might readily overlook the term "first-steps" as mere figurative language.

Yet, it may be the most significant part of this unique employment listing, as it seeks to hire a tutor for a infant.

Hundreds of responses have already been received since the anonymous family posted their request for the £180k-a-year tutor, who needs to be "someone very special".

During the past few weeks, the advert has attracted notice across the press, with numerous asking why?

Innovative Idea

The CEO, chief executive of Tutors International, which is assisting the family in their hunt, stated that notwithstanding early skepticism, he found the plan "forward-looking", and "progressive".

When he spoke with the family, he noted they appreciated the atypical character of their requirement, and how young their son is.

Nevertheless, they explained that they "preferred not to postpone any longer" to engage a tutor, as they had postponed until their elder sibling was five, and by that point "cultural conditioning had by then taken hold".

But what does the family refer to by "cultural leaning"?

It's "comprehensive", he replied. "How you eat, how you speak".

He explained the older sibling had absorbed "extremely delicate, non-verbal cues" from the family, and had adopted their cultural ways. The family explained to the consultant they did not want the same situation to recur with their new baby.

The plan: To bring in a English tutor, who should speak with standard English accent, to shape the baby from day one.

Tutoring discussion
The education firm claim the advert has initiated a broader conversation about how parents regard learning, elitism and the role of home and culture in education.

Natural Absorption

"A great deal of the learning at the outset here is somewhat osmotic," explained Adam.

It's via this natural absorption that the family are aiming the child will pick up the UK customs they want to instil.

He explained the tutor had to be an individual who went to "prestigious academies – the same kinds of schools as the family hope to send their son to".

"The tutor must be the appropriate candidate, they'll be carrying out things they don't even know they're doing, just naturally," he commented.

Expense Not a Factor

The family told Adam the successful candidate should ideally also have familiarity of or enthusiasm in horse riding, alpine skiing, the arts and instrumental training so as to influence the child in a diverse set of interests.

Additionally though, he stated the family desired the tutor to sign up the child on a range of lessons so the child would be "horseback riding and starting an musical instrument by the time they are about three years old".

In the family's view, assisting their son grow into a "British gentleman" will lead to achievement and create opportunities.

"For all the rights and wrongs of that, because it's definitely a class statement," he notes.

However, in spite of all this instruction in "English culture", might the child adopt so-called cultural influence from the globally influenced family he resides with anyway?

"Absolutely", said Adam. "The family know this might not succeed, but they've just taken the perspective of, 'why not attempt it and let's go as soon as we can', because the expense of it is irrelevant," he explained.

Idealistic and Unrealistic

Several in the tutoring industry who have these doubts.

An education leader, chief executive of a tutoring service, who also offer individual instructors, commented that "the development of adopting dual cultures, or in fact, discovering oneself, is something that must be grown into, not engineered."

Peter explained that he had moved from the Far East to the UK at the time of childhood, and had been brought up knowing and embodying two backgrounds. He went on to learn at Cambridge University.

Peter Cui portrait
Peter Cui was the first person hailing from the People's Republic of China to be chosen to the position of Treasurer of the Cambridge Union.

"The concept that an individual can serve as a living vessel of UK identity, someone who can somehow impart the characteristics of a British gentleman onto a one-year-old child, strikes me as optimistic and unrealistic," he wrote.

"From my perspective, employing a typically British tutor from babyhood will not instantly create the outcome they want.

"I wasn't provided with such a tutor, and however I have been privileged enough to experience many of the experiences they hope for their son."

He stated: "The truth is, cultural identity can not be forced from the external environment; it must be embraced, and it must come from within."

Acquiring Englishness

Certainly, UK identity is something Adam believes can be taught – and marketed.

"I believe the fact that the world views us in this regard is something that we should be cherishing|valuing|appreciating

About the author

Rebecca Nicholson

Lena is een ervaren vastgoedexpert met een passie voor het verbinden van mensen met hun ideale woning.

Next Home Direct

Type to search articles.